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Anger is a normal emotion that can help us respond to challenges, protect what matters and stand up to unfairness. However, when it affects our wellbeing, relationships or daily life, it can become difficult to manage.

Military training and life experiences can shape how we respond to pressure, conflict and perceived threats. For families, the unique experiences of Armed Forces life can also influence how anger is experienced and expressed.

We can help you understand your anger, identify triggers and recognise how thoughts, feelings, physical responses and behaviours influence your reactions. You’ll learn practical ways to increase self-awareness and support your wellbeing and relationships.

Three things you could try today

Start an Anger Diary

Note situations where your anger appears. What happened? What were you thinking and feeling? What did you notice in your body? Looking back can help identify patterns, triggers and early warning signs.

Identify Your Warning Signs

Anger can show up physically before we recognise it mentally. Notice signs such as tense muscles, clenched jaw, feeling hot, speaking louder or racing thoughts. Recognising these signs can help you respond earlier.

Create a Personal Calm Plan

Choose something that helps you slow down, such as walking, breathing exercises, grounding, music or stepping away briefly. Keep your strategy somewhere visible so it's easier to remember when you need it.

What anger support does The Recovery College offer?

    A Group Course

    You, Me And Anger

    • A free, group course run online via Microsoft Teams.
    • Co-delivered by those with lived experience and experts from our Hidden Wounds service.
    • These sessions give you an opportunity to learn more about anger as well as positive coping strategies with others in the Armed Forces Community.
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        A Self-Help Guide

        Understanding Anger

        • A free, interactive, online guide.
        • Designed to work through at your own pace, any time, anywhere.
        • With no need to sign up, you can learn more about anger, its impact and tools and tips to help manage your wellbeing.

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        More about the Group Course

        What will I learn on the 'You, Me and Anger' group course?

        • How your experiences and lifestyle can create triggers for anger.
        • Understanding your emotions and how anger can become an issue if you no longer feel in control.
        • Skills and tools to help you better manage and cope with the effects of anger.

        How long is the course?

        • 1 x meet and greet session.
        • 4 x 2.5-hour modules. One module per week over four consecutive weeks.

        How do I apply?

        If you are already engaged with us, please speak to your point of contact within the Charity. They will be able to help book you onto our courses.

        If you are not yet engaged with us, we’d love to welcome you.

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        More about the Self-Help Guide

        What will I learn on the 'Understanding Anger' self-help guide?

        • More about the definition of anger, why we might get angry and it's impact on our wellbeing. 
        • How to identify and implement strategies to help manage your anger and support your recovery journey.

        How do I access it?

        With no need to book or sign up to anything, you can work through this online self-help guide at your own pace, any time.

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          More information about our Anger Self-Help Guide

          Other ways we can help you with anger

          We provide a range of talking therapies to help veterans and their families with their mental health. These can be for many conditions, including depression, anxiety, anger, grief and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

          Mental health professionals in our Hidden Wounds Service have experience working with members of the Armed Forces community. They listen without making judgement and can help you work through anything you’re struggling with.

          Visit our Therapy Service page to find out more. 

          The course has given me a better understanding about myself and anger.”

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