Lieutenant Gray, who suffers from an ongoing shoulder injury as well as cancer, has reconciled himself to the fact that his recovery journey will be a long one. Yet he has recognised that what he can control is his mental health and believes that the Invictus Games saved him when he was at his lowest and has given him back his sense of worth. He said: “Invictus reminded me that after all I have been through, the two most important things in my life never gave up on me, my children. I made a promise then to never give up for them.
I want to find out what I can do and how hard I can push myself to be the best version of me I can be.” He is keen to be a role model, to show to others that they can do it too and achieve in the face of adversity. Lt Gray added that he gets as much pride and satisfaction from watching someone reach beyond what they thought was possible as if he were achieving it himself. The 39-year-old added: “To have my children see me wearing the Invictus team colours with all that they represent will prove to them that Daddy is the master of his destiny.”